So in this video I would like to no give reference to the mean aspect our area of life coach and that
many life coaches focus all of their efforts and energies on and this is life balance.
I'm certainly not undermining the importance of living a balanced life.
But what I am saying is that it cannot be the main area of focus.
All right because it's always going to be reasons why our life is unbalanced.
Many people approach life kind of like as this as this whole which is all which is okay which is fair
enough.
People say my life is so imbalanced I need to change something.
So say for example a really busy man or a really busy woman who's devoted the last 10 15 years to working
hard within a business and have committed their time to you know to developing a professional reputation
for themselves or something like this.
And then to say right this is that I need more balance back in my life.
I'm quitting my day job I'm going to go and do something new.
And then the focus on social clubs and make a difference and contribution back in the world.
And then after about six months they end up completely completely distraught bored because they're granted
and the no focusing on a different area of their life.
But they've kind of just sacrificed one aspect of life for another.
And this is kind of the opportunity cost principle that I was mentioning earlier on.
I think it was in the last section give an example here.
All right.
If I was to go into the pen shop and there are 25 different colors of pen I want every single color
of pen so that my pen collection is totally balanced right.
That's what I want I want a balanced pen collection.
Every single pen is going to cost me one pound.
The only problem is I only have one pound.
All right.
So what color do I go for.
My goodness.
Do I go for green do go for red for marriage green and red together to get and perhaps different shades
of brown may go for yellow may go for blue in the end to see you know what are how really like this
red pen I'm going to purchase this one and this is just come at the cost of all the other different
colors of the rainbow All right.
And this is sometimes the same kind of way of thinking that we used to approach our life as a whole.
All right.
So and this is where can I go setting comes in.
It's not about just saying I want to live a balanced life right.
That's a very very broad very very big very ambiguous statement first and foremost we've got to acknowledge
understand the different aspects that we have in our life.
All right we've got to break our life down into into colors as it were.
All right.
So bus for this purpose of this that this video is really about.
I want to give you a brief overview of the different aspects and areas in our life.
And then I want to just turn your focus right towards a resource that create for you.
And then we've invested quite a bit of time into developing this resource called The Life Balance workbook.
All right.
And this kind of breaks your life down into the seven areas that follow.
First things first love and relationships.
All right.
This one area of life and we halve our career our educational aspirations and what we want to do with
our lives professionally what we wanted to build with then got our personal finances we've got health
recreation fun leisure and that sort of thing.
We've then got routine responsibilities i.e. the mundane stuff that we just need to get done every single
day.
Otherwise we're going to find ourselves in trouble like paying the bills things like that then we've
got a social contribution.
And by this I mean given back making a bit of a difference in the world because I guess that we can
approach life on the world from one of two angles we can approach the world as being consumers we are
we're just here to consume and get and get and get from everyone as many people as we can or we're going
to approach the world as being contributors i.e. we want to get something back or we want to give something
back.
Sorry.
Here's a thing.
We can only give something once we've first got something.
So again life's all about.
It was all about balance and then personal growth.
You know I've known some people over the years to become so completely immersed in their world of personal
growth and objectivity and they go on this journey of self exploration s discovery and they explore
and expand upon and dig into all these aspects of themselves and then become very very reflective.
And through the process become completely unrelatable to other people which comes at the cost of their
and their day to day relationships.
All right.
So when we're looking at life as a whole.
Right.
I use seven main areas of our life and this is the seven areas that I break your life down into in this
life balance workbook.
It's important that we understand the world and we decide what it is we actually want and those seven
different areas.
Give an example here.
When I was you know between the ages of 16 to so 25 years old I wasn't bothered about relationships.
I wasn't bothered about getting married but having a girlfriend or anything like this.
Right.
I was all about education and making difference in the world than I wanted to do something with myself.
Hence a reason to join the military.
All right so what I'm saying is not all people are at all times are going to be motivated by the same
things and not all people are going to be driven by making progress in all seven different areas of
life at the same time.
All right.
Hence the reason we've got to approach every single client and passionately we work with as unique and
very very different individual because all people are unique and all people are different.
All right.
So let we understand seven main areas of life.
We can start identifying what the priority areas are that our clients actually want to work through.
Alright so we can have the greatest life coaching process in the world.
And sometimes as life coaches we can all be a little bit guilty.
I know I will speak for myself here anyway of coming into or entering our coaching relationship with
an agenda or fair this client that I'm working with leave in with.
Having made progress in every single area of their life now I don't operate like that today per pack
when it started.
Yeah absolutely.
I wanted to be this what I wanted to be people's saviors.
Alright I want to do something meaningful with my life and I thought that I was gonna be the kind of
guy who would fix and transform people's lives.
Not back then understanding that it's not me that can transform or fix anyone's lives.
People will make decisions take action that ultimately transform their own lives.
All right so we've got to understand how it is that other people can get more effective in advancing
in the areas and aspects of life that are important to them.
So life's all about balance.
We've got family we've got work we've got our home life we've got our health life sometimes we can focus
on our relationship so we can focus on work and it comes at the cost of our health.
Sometimes we can focus on our career a little bit too much and it perhaps comes at the cost of the relationship
that we have with our children or the quality of our home life or the relationships that we have with
our husbands wives spouses partners whatever.
Some guys some guys especially somebody lady city so I vote success and success kind of becomes this
addiction.
All right.
Have you ever wondered what it is that you know that really drives people to want to be successful in
life and are people striving to you know make a name for themselves or make money or actually make a
difference.
I guess that determines how it is that we define success doesn't it.
I like to define success as being true to who I am.
All right so if I know who I am and then on a day to day basis I do my best to actually be who I am.
And for me that is me being successful.
Many people look at success as having a certain amount of money in the bank or by having a certain size
a house or a certain size a car parked in the driveway or being certain rank or position or status or
something like this which so quite external and quite superficial.
When you think about it isn't it really money right.
Some people prioritize making money their whole lives and then get to the grand old age of 50 60 70
and devote their whole lives to making money and reach retirement age and they've got no friends they've
got no family or no one to invest it into.
That's when some people become like social investors and investing in society because they realize they've
spent their whole life climbing a mountain only to reach the top and realize that that actually claimed
the wrong one.
All right.
So life balance is not for me to teach you or talk about how it is that you can bring your life in a
balance.
I've got no idea where you're at in life and in the same way you're never going to know where your clients
are.
So in order for us to help our clients and aid our clients in the process of becoming more responsible
for themselves it's all about giving them options about giving them choices.
And this is why we give them a workbook such as this.
No this workbook book is actually around about 22 pages long.
Is quite a comprehensive one and we've created this one for you and we're going to urge you to download
it print it off and even share it with your clients moving forward right especially at the star of the
coaching relationship is going to give you a fantastic framework and a basis for actually establishing
what goals and voids and deficits your clients perceive themselves as having in their life.
This gives you a whole load of stuff to work through and address.
All right.
Incidentally clients never want the average is going to have one goal or two goals.
They're always going to have multiple goals and multiple life areas and sometimes address problems that
people have is not so much in pursuing goals but they just don't know how to prioritize them.
They don't know how to best channel their energies and their on their efforts.
So this is kind of like the questions every single life area that I've mentioned here i.e. love and
relationships career no education no advancements or professional life personal finances.
And if we don't get this right if we don't budget our finances particularly well or we've never learned
how to.
This can be a huge factor of stress in people's lives as well.
So when some people go to the doctor and say I'm stressed I'm stressed.
The doctor says well you'll have all the symptoms of being stressed therefore before for you your stress
that's who you are.
Well doctors don't always do is look at the reasons why.
All right.
We look at and focus on the effects of the decisions that we make sometimes rather than explore and
the reasons why we make the decisions that we make.
Health recreation routine responsibilities social contribution giving something back.
And our own personal growth devoted a page of questions around a booth think 13 or 14 questions on each
page just allowing you to explore each of those seven life areas and quite a bit of depth to help you
to identify any voids that you have in your life.
All right so going to strongly argue for no to spend maybe half an hour.
All right this is one of the practical sections of the course know by the way to go through the workbook
and do a real thorough self-examination on yourself.
Give yourself a thorough check over.
All right.
Explore all these seven main areas of your life and at the bottom of each page there's an opportunity
for you to establish our primary vision for each of those main life areas.
All right.
On a very very personal level I imagine that once you've finished you're going to hopefully appreciate
the degree of clarity that you know you have on the steps that you need to start take and start bringing
your own life into balance.
Now if you then take those steps Laura and start making decisions.
It's going to be this then gives you the authority to start coaching other people through the same life
balance coaching process.
You've got to go there first before you start leading your clients.
All right.
This is the part of the course that is more practical on your part than mine.
I want to show you the areas that you want to be investing some time and energy effort into.
But it's entirely up to you whether you do or not.
Know might be the case that your life is perfectly balanced and if so that's fantastic.
All right.
Don't deem this has been irrelevant.
Instead go through it anyway see understand the life balance process.
This will just give you a context for serving your clients moving forward far more effectively in the
future.
All right.
So enjoy the exercise and I'll see you again in the next clip.